“Communication is the key to a healthy relationship between yourself and child whom you should be patient, respectful and considerate with.”
This is true, but as a parent you shouldn’t feel pressurised into telling your children everything, there are plenty of alternatives nowadays, such as being taught sex education in schools or simply hearing from friends. As teenagers we often prefer these alternatives, as talking about subjects such as sex and relationships can cause embarrassment and perhaps a little unease.
Conversely, if you fell comfortable on the matter then go for it because in the long term being able to address issues such as these is a definite positive on the road to a stronger relationship. It will help your teenager to make mature decisions about relationships and allows them to feel more grown up. Although again I really believe the necessity to talk about this topic is determined by how responsible you believe your child to be.
To be totally truthful I don't believe that these get you anywhere in terms of progress of your relationship between yourself and your son or daughter. Unless your child is particularly rebellious then I think you should avoid these altogether. However is there is an issue it is vital that you sit down and address the situation as soon as possible so that your child understands what is accepted and what is not.
If under some circumstances you do see it necessary to implement a punishment then bear in mind that I think it is better to 'add' rather that 'take away'. Let me explain... try adding chores to your child’s routine, warning that if they are not completed he or she will not be allowed to participate in something she enjoys. Instead of directly taking away something she enjoys which often provokes further rebellion. Also this way round you benefit too!
‘Can I go out tonight?’ becomes an increasingly asked question as you child grows in age and it’s important to know when is the right time to say ‘No’ or ‘Yes’.
You need to be consistent in your decisions and only make exceptions if it is completely necessary. Curfews are often the centre of arguments when discussing this matter, perhaps it would be a good idea to do as my parents did and increase these as your son or daughter becomes older. I always wanted to stay out as late as was possible whilst my mum seemed unable to go to sleep unless I was home so it is not unordinary if you feel the same in this situation. You could make sure that he/she sends you a text during the night to ease your worrying. Try not to be too restricting but apply a sensible amount of authority depending on how responsible your child is. The amount of nights a week your teenager is out is also a debatable issue, say 2 evenings a week, perhaps a Friday and one day at the weekend, is a suitable limit.
